Plans are only good intentions unless they immediately degenerate into hard work. -Peter Drucker
One of the most difficult parts of writing a blog is typing that all-important first sentence, each and every week. For many writers, it is a task even more daunting than coming up with topics to write about. For me, I believe some of the pressure comes from knowing that, not only does the first thing I jot down influence the direction of everything I write after, but it also determines whether my audience will be interested enough to keep reading. Finding the right words, an engaging topic, a good title, and even taking an eye-catching photo (with a heart in it), for every post is a lot of work, not to mention getting all of that loaded onto the site of my blog and following through with the behind-the-scenes labor, such as promoting my work on Facebook, and Pinterest, and Twitter, as well as within writing groups, classes, and with people in general.
While I would expect most people wouldn’t consider everything that goes into writing a blog, there is one thing I am very glad my readers realize. I am thankful they notice when I haven’t written. Many of you contacted me during the past few weeks, checking to see why you weren’t receiving your weekly email with my newest post, asking if there was a problem with your email, or my blog, or with me. First of all, I would like to thank those who took the time to contact me. I cannot begin to express what it meant to me to hear that you enjoy my blog and that you missed reading it.
After posting for 36 straight weeks, I would like to say it was the holidays that got me off track. While it is true that finding and wrapping the perfect gifts, decorating, baking, cooking, and attending special events did take their toll on my time, and I did choose to spend as much of my days as I could with my loved ones, I probably still could have fit in some writing if I really tried. I wanted to write. I thought about it several times. I guess part of me was tired and didn’t want to work that hard. Maybe I was being lazy. Maybe I just needed a break. And, now, maybe the brand new year is an opportunity for me to get off to a fresh start, one that is full of more than good intentions.
How many of us could say exactly the same thing about romance in our marriage? Many of us have ideas about the things we would like to do, ideas of having regular date nights, communicating more with our spouse, surprising them with romantic gestures, and going off together on little getaways. For some reason, our good intentions get derailed and we don’t follow through. We allow other obligations to get in the way. We’re too tired. We don’t want to put in all of that effort. Maybe we just don’t get around to it. And, before we know it, we have drifted further away from our plans to improve our marriage and, perhaps, even further away from our spouse.
The best thing about a new year is it can be a time of new beginnings. I challenge you to make a commitment along with me. While I come up with the first sentence for every new blog post, you come up with that one all-important action you will take each week to add some romance to your marriage and then DO IT! Why? Because, just like the first sentence in my writing, a romantic gesture directed toward your spouse can set the tone of everything that comes after and can determine if you hold your spouse’s interest until the end of your love story.
No first effort is too small. If you need help, you can search the suggestions offered in my blog (read back through a few of my past 36 posts for ideas) or from many other great sources that are out there. The important part is to do more than just think about it. It may be hard work at first, but it will get easier as you go along. If you miss a week or even a few, don’t give up. Simply start over again, taking one action per week. It is my hope and my prayer for you, dear readers, that you will be able to turn the good intentions of your heart into behaviors, filling your real world marriage with fairy-tale romance throughout 2015. Happy New Year and wishing you lots of love in the year ahead!